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Dr. Jaime Black

Parenting Pep Talk: Talking About Death and Divorce With Kids

“It’s best to be honest with your kids, but first assess how much information they need to know.” Parents and adults are often reluctant to discuss certain topics with children. Death and divorce, for example, are challenging subjects. Do we tell children the truth, do we sugar coat it, or just flat out lie? Many […]

Dr. Jaime Black

Parenting Pep Talk: Got Grit?

Grit is the new buzzword in education thanks to the award-winning work done by psychologist and former 7th grade math teacher Angela Duckworth. Duckworth began studying grit — defined as persistence, determination, and resilience, or the quality of being able to sustain and work hard at passions – after an interesting trend emerged while teaching […]

Dr. Jaime Black

Parenting Pep Talk: Why Spanking is Counterproductive

Many parents who spank their children are well intended. They believe that spanking will curb undesirable behaviors and increase desirable ones. Because their parents did it to them, they think it can’t be that bad. They turned out OK, didn’t they? The newest research, however, confirms what anti-spanking parents and professionals have long believed: spanking […]

Dr. Jaime Black

Parenting Pep Talk: The Price of Boredom

We all feel bored sometimes, and many experts and parents talk about the value of boredom. It’s true, children benefit from having to find ways to occupy their minds during unstructured time. In a world filled with constant stimulation and immediate gratification via smartphones, tablets, etc., it is important for children to also be self-starting […]

Dr. Jaime Black

Parenting Pep Talk: Top Tips For Doctor Visits

Studies show that patients get about 15 minutes face-to-face with their physicians during office visits, and a recent study found that patients in hospitals may only get an alarming eight minutes.  Parents are patient advocates, and they need to come prepared to get the most out of limited time.  Here are some tips for optimizing […]

Dr. Jaime Black

Parenting Pep Talk: The Value of Video Games

Over the past few decades numerous studies have investigated the negative consequences of gaming, including depression, violence, and addiction. Recently researchers have taken a closer look at past studies and are conducting new ones that indicate video games might actually improve learning, health, and social skills. Given that 97 percent of children and adolescents in […]

Dr. Jaime Black

Parenting Pep Talk: Are You Putting Your Toddler To Bed Too Early?

Having a consistent bedtime is good for children’s health but putting your child to bed too early could lead to a variety of health disturbances. New research conducted at the University of Colorado (CU-Boulder) linked premature bedtime to kids’ immediate and long-term sleep problems. Such sleep problems are associated with emotional and behavioral issues as […]

Dr. Jaime Black

Responding to Teasing and Bullying: Are Adults Giving Kids the Right Advice?

It is very common for adolescents to get teased. Even the most popular among them experience teasing. It’s the way a person responds to being teased that determines the frequency and severity of it. Adults often tell adolescents to ignore teasing, to walk away, or to tell a teacher or adult. But is this the […]

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Parenting Pep Talk: Living in a Material World – Affluenza and its Impact on Society

Marketers work tirelessly to convince us we will be happier when we have the newest, best, and most of practically everything. Toys, phones, and cars, for example, are remodeled each year and commercials persuade many of us to ditch our old stuff to buy the latest edition of whatever.  This is regardless of cost or […]

Dr. Jaime Black

Parenting Pep Talk: Are “Winter Blues” Hurting Your Family?

Many of us feel somewhat down and sluggish as daylight hours diminish and the darkness increases.  Some people, however, experience a severe decline in energy and mood and fall into a full-blown depression during the winter months. Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) is a subtype of depression that affects an individual at a certain time each […]

Dr. Jaime Black

Parenting Pep Talk: 5 Tips for a Stress Free Thanksgiving

Whether you are hosting your own Thanksgiving dinner or attending someone else’s, Thanksgiving can be stressful. Traveling, guests, family dynamics, cooking and cleaning, etc. can all be nerve wracking. It doesn’t have to be that way. Here are five tips for making the holiday go as smoothly as possible. Plan ahead but expect some unexpected. […]

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Parenting Pep Talk: Why Emotional Literacy Is So Important

“Studies suggest that emotionally literate characteristics like self-restraint, persistence, and self-awareness are better predictors of life outcomes than common academic measures.” Social and emotional literacy develop over time and need to be nurtured just like any other skill such as math or learning how to ride a bike. Unlike math or bike-riding, however, the teaching […]

Parenting Pep Talk: Making Halloween Fun for Your Special Needs Child

Parenting Pep Talk: Making Halloween Fun for Your Special Needs Child

Halloween is approaching, and while many children can hardly wait others are filled with dread.  Special needs children might be anxious prior to Halloween and might encounter challenging circumstances the day of.  Costumes, crowds, and changes in routine can be troublesome for many children and teens who prefer structure and predictability.  Here are some suggestions […]

Parenting Pep Talk: How Much Homework is Too Much?

Parenting Pep Talk: How Much Homework is Too Much?

Meaningful homework assignments can help children process what they learned in school, but lengthy and repetitive tasks can squash children’s spirits and turn them off of learning. Experts argue over whether homework is necessary and the science is mixed. Studies often measure time spent rather than the value of the work itself. That said, many […]

Dr. Jaime Black

Parenting Pep Talk: Seven Tips to Balance Work and Life

Finding the right balance between work and non-work life is a challenge for many of us. People work long hours for all sorts of reasons. They might be worried about layoffs and trying to secure their jobs. They might be in a profession that requires them to be available at all hours, or they might […]

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Parenting Pep Talk: Recognizing When Love Becomes an Addiction

Romantic relationships are tied to happiness from adolescence throughout the lifespan. For most people being in a committed, reciprocal partnership leads to pleasure and enhances well-being. In some cases, however, people become so consumed with love that it significantly impairs their ability to function in day-to-day life. Work or school life suffers, relationships with family […]

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Parenting Pep Talk: “We All Go Through Something In Life.” Wisdom from Antionette Tuff

“We all go through something in life,” said Antionette Tuff, the brave and quick-thinking woman who kept up to 500 children and staff of a Georgia school from being killed or injured last week. When faced with armed Michael Hill, Tuff resisted the urge to flee and found compassion for the troubled young man. Some […]

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Getting The Organizationally-Challenged Student Ready for College

It’s the time of year when parents are scrambling to get their kids ready for their first year of college.  Numerous trips to Target, Bed Bath & Beyond, The Container Store, etc. help to ensure that your children have what they need to live on their own, away from the familiar and predictable life they […]

Parenting Pep Talk: 10 Ways to Be a Great Dad

Parenting Pep Talk: 10 Ways to Be a Great Dad

Both men and women can benefit from sharing their parenting experiences – good and bad – with others, but men are less likely to do so on average.  Even most online parenting communities are geared toward women.  Men might consider the advice of Scott Kelby, dad and author, based on his journey from reluctant to […]

Dr. Jaime Black

Parenting Pep Talk: Your Kids Will Pick Up Your Driving Habits

Most parents would avidly report that they want their children focused on the road while driving. Yet, when their children are passengers, parents f­­requently engage in distracting behaviors such as texting while driving. Parents risk their lives and those of their children by driving while distracted, and their children are likely to model these behaviors, […]

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Parenting Pep Talk: When Parents Disagree on Their Child’s Treatment

Most couples disagree from time to time about how to best parent their children. These disagreements can escalate into full-blown fights when a child is newly diagnosed with a psychiatric condition and decisions about treatment must be made. It is an overwhelming and emotional process, and it requires a lot of time and attention. Many […]

Dr. Jaime Black

Getting Kids Ready for Summer Camp

Some children brim with excitement at the thought of camp while others groan and plead with parents to stay home.  Parental responses also range considerably.  Many parents are confident about their child’s ability to manage the transition while others are apprehensive.  Choosing a camp, particularly a sleep-away camp, can be a challenging experience in itself.  […]

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Parenting Pep Talk: Getting Along With Your College Kids Over The Summer

The first summer home after freshman year can be exciting and fun but also challenging for both parents and college kids. Your child has spent the past year in a relatively unstructured environment with few rules. As long as grades are kept up, parents might have little insight into their college kid’s actual behaviors. It […]

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Parenting Pep Talk: How to Keep Parental Arguments Under Control

Disagreements and arguments are a natural part of relationships and marriage. Parents will inevitably disagree about a variety of issues throughout their relationship and parenting years, and it isn’t necessarily a bad thing for children to witness some dissention. Lessons can be learned from respectful conflict resolution, but hostile fights that involve screaming and name-calling […]

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Parenting Pep Talk: Does My Child Need Medication or Therapy?

When children are diagnosed with ADHD, depression, or anxiety disorders, parents have to make some tough decisions. Should we medicate? Try therapy? Do both? Medication is often immediately considered in extreme cases. If a child is too depressed, or too hyper or anxious to learn coping strategies and make gains during therapy sessions, medication might […]

Parenting Pep Talk: Parenting Lessons from the Business World

Parenting Pep Talk: Parenting Lessons from the Business World

The Wall Street Journal recently published an article examining factors that make happy families happy.  Bruce Feiler, author of the article and book The Secrets of Happy Parenting, explains how families can utilize workplace strategies to create a happy household.  “Agile development,” a system of group dynamics that organizes workers into small teams, can be […]

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Parenting Pep Talk: Helping Children with Bipolar Disorder

Bipolar disorder, otherwise known as manic-depressive disorder, is a serious mental condition that affects children’s functioning in school and at home, and it interferes with most relationships.  Symptoms of bipolar disorder are more easily recognizable in adults than in children. It is characterized by intense episodes of depression and mania (i.e., heightened energy and excitability) […]

Dr. Jaime Black

Parenting Pep Talk: Be Smart With Your Smartphone

Parents are often frustrated by the amount of time their children spend staring and tapping away at their iPhones. While it’s true that teens spend a lot of phone time on Facebook or texting, smartphones can be put to good use. Many applications (apps) help individuals independently manage day-to-day tasks, handle schoolwork, cope with health-related […]

Dr. Jaime Black

How Chores Help Children

Typical children as young as 4 or 5 have the ability to help maintain a wholesome household by doing chores such as putting their clothes away, helping to set the table, and making their own beds. Most children consider such chores to be their parents’ job, and many parents refrain from asking them to pitch […]

Dr. Jaime Black

Should Parents Stay Together For The Sake Of Their Children?

Most parents considering divorce ask themselves, “Should we stay together for our children? Which would harm them more, having parents who are unhappily married or ones who are apart?” All parenting experts agree that in cases of abuse, the non-abusing parent should take the children out of that environment at least temporarily while the abusing […]